I’ve done similar from time to time, especially in my trade.
I’m not certain, but i think there’s a belief where doing someone a kindness like that should not be something that you tell them about, or anyone else for that matter–you simply do it…or like in this case, you frame it in a way that you don’t allow them to accept it as charity or a favor etc… The kindness is the truest when it’s simply done and told to no one else. That’s a little treat you keep for yourself. 🙂
There’s a question of morality of if something is good if you’re doing it for something in return, be that just a “thank you” or publicity. To be truly a good deed, the deed itself should be enough. A charitable donation without a name was a donation done for good. One where they wanted people to know that they did it can still do good, but it’s debatable whether the act is good.
I fully agree! I first picked up a different take on Charity from a small book called The New Sins by David Byrne (of Talking Heads fame, if you’re old like me)… He basically said charity so often comes with certain unspoken strings attached that it could nearly be used as a means of controlling or pacifying someone by doing something charitable for them. It can also be a cheap way of whitewashing one’s reputation. There are a lot of reasons why charity isn’t always the good it can be presented as.
I enjoyed it. It stuck with me enough, i suppose! I’ve always loved his art, and found that to fit nicely into the mosaic of his works. It’s funny, it’s actually written in Spanish as well–you just flip the book over and start reading from the other side!
you get it. but lots of folks here are so egotistical they can’t conceive of a charitable donation without their name attached… and then go on to be like how that will ‘inspire others to do good’.
the concept of just doing good without recognition or reward just doesn’t exist for them, because what would be the point?
because apparently all the people who silently do good shit as part of their everyday life are just schmucks or something.
I’ve done similar from time to time, especially in my trade.
I’m not certain, but i think there’s a belief where doing someone a kindness like that should not be something that you tell them about, or anyone else for that matter–you simply do it…or like in this case, you frame it in a way that you don’t allow them to accept it as charity or a favor etc… The kindness is the truest when it’s simply done and told to no one else. That’s a little treat you keep for yourself. 🙂
There’s a question of morality of if something is good if you’re doing it for something in return, be that just a “thank you” or publicity. To be truly a good deed, the deed itself should be enough. A charitable donation without a name was a donation done for good. One where they wanted people to know that they did it can still do good, but it’s debatable whether the act is good.
I fully agree! I first picked up a different take on Charity from a small book called The New Sins by David Byrne (of Talking Heads fame, if you’re old like me)… He basically said charity so often comes with certain unspoken strings attached that it could nearly be used as a means of controlling or pacifying someone by doing something charitable for them. It can also be a cheap way of whitewashing one’s reputation. There are a lot of reasons why charity isn’t always the good it can be presented as.
I had no idea he’d written a book - is it good?
I enjoyed it. It stuck with me enough, i suppose! I’ve always loved his art, and found that to fit nicely into the mosaic of his works. It’s funny, it’s actually written in Spanish as well–you just flip the book over and start reading from the other side!
you get it. but lots of folks here are so egotistical they can’t conceive of a charitable donation without their name attached… and then go on to be like how that will ‘inspire others to do good’.
the concept of just doing good without recognition or reward just doesn’t exist for them, because what would be the point?
because apparently all the people who silently do good shit as part of their everyday life are just schmucks or something.