Thank you. My wife tells me this every day. Illness sucks but support makes it a bit easier.
The unconditionallity of some affirmations damages their credibility…
Am I the only one that these empty platitudes make feel worse??
How are people happy to be told all that, based on nothing at all. Cause and effect, if there’s no cause the effect is invalid.
Nah, I don’t respect the parts about it being temporary and me being able to beat it too much either. I don’t mind the drive-by positivity as such, but assuming I’ll ever be able to get better when the reality is different does not make absorbing the positivity very easy.
I see it just as positive vibes. It’s someone throwing a bottle in the ocean hoping it will reach someone who might need the message inside it.
I can totally understand the other way around though, it can feel invalidating like behing told that sleeping 8 hours, meditating 15 minutes per day and eating well will solve every single of your problems when you have to deal with a crippling condition every single day of your life. It can be infuriating.
I try to focus on the non-verbal narrative and tell myself that it’s just a person sending positive vibes in their own way.
I’m the, “could be worse”, guy for my wife. No matter how bad things are, I can always imagine something entirely possible that would be worse.
I don’t know if it helps her at all, but she seems to be amused by it.
I live in a world of ever-present, looming disaster.
I’m a sysadmin.
No, I will not beat this. Illness isn’t something you beat, it’s something someone cures. Or not.
I don’t like the implication that if you don’t get better you’re not fighting hard enough.
Are these posts helpful for people? I’m curious.
No.
It depends on where you are in life and your current head space. There is a debate about ‘toxic positivity propaganda’ being used to shift decreased morale from systemic issues onto individuals, but it’s very muddy territory.
Some people just shut out this messaging. Others can find it encouraging when no one else is in their corner.
