I’m very disappointed in poem_for_your_sprog for almost understanding this point, and then immediately making the same mistake she was calling out
‘I have to sort my books!’ she cried,
With self-indulgent glee;
With senseless,narcissisticpride:
‘I’m just so OCD!’
‘How random, guys!’ I smiled and said,
Then left without a peep -
And washed my hands until they bled,
And cried myself to sleep.
That would be true, if it wasn’t for the fact that people try to use the symptoms of NPD as proof that someone is a narcissist. You’ll see it in plenty of “therapy speech” communities.
You can call someone a narcissist all you want. But as soon as you pathologise it, it becomes clear that you aren’t talking about someone who’s just full of themselves. And unfortunately, the vast majority of the internet pathologised it, so it could only mean that.
This video explains the phenomenon very well: https://youtu.be/8ZFQG2e87ZU