A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.
So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.
No, that’s bigoted nonsense. Trans people had to suffer well meaning cis people crying about “transtrenders” in the 10s and I guess aces have to deal with this too now.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Attraction is like hunger. Some people like to eat sweets even when they’re not hungry, some people don’t. The words for that are “sex positive ace” and “sex repulsed ace”.
Asexuality is also an umbrella. There’s demisexuals, grey aces, and others under the umbrella.
Also also, there’s aces who are into kink, but not genitals.
“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?
I am extremely uneducated about this point, but how are “asexual” and “love to be spitroasted” compatible things in the same person?
Feel free to tell me to just search this on my own, but I am hella confused and if you can spare the time, that would help me greatly.
A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.
So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.
No, that’s bigoted nonsense. Trans people had to suffer well meaning cis people crying about “transtrenders” in the 10s and I guess aces have to deal with this too now.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Attraction is like hunger. Some people like to eat sweets even when they’re not hungry, some people don’t. The words for that are “sex positive ace” and “sex repulsed ace”.
Asexuality is also an umbrella. There’s demisexuals, grey aces, and others under the umbrella.
Also also, there’s aces who are into kink, but not genitals.
“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
So you want to exclude sex positive aces from the community because sharing the label makes you feel yucky?
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?